I know this boy…

I can’t stop thinking about this boy. We met him about a month ago. Had dinner with his foster family. Let’s call him T. He’s been in his foster home for FIVE years. That is TOO LONG for any boy to be in limbo, waiting for permanency; a forever home where he will find unconditional acceptance, love and commitment.

T is legally free to adopt. That means that all of his bio parents rights have been terminated and he is free and clear to be CHOSEN. He is 11, he’s WAY taller than me (yes, not saying much, I know), he’s SUPER smart and does amazing in school. So what’s the problem? Why isn’t he being adopted?

T is a great kid, with a huge smile, who loves to play. But he’s also a damaged kid. He’s been physically and sexually abused and underneath all that horrible trauma, he’s just a kid; he’s a very hard kid to place in an adoptive family. T needs someone with older kids or no kids. Which means that someone who THOUGHT they were almost done parenting, who has been thinking about vacations, dreaming of empty nests (some people dream about this – I used to be one of those!) would need to take T in. It would require TIME, PATIENCE, LOVE, PATIENCE, THERAPY, PATIENCE…did I say PATIENCE? It would mean putting off the empty nest dreams for a few years more, it would mean you have to be involved in the school system {again}, unless you home school, and it would be sacrifice.

But let me tell you what it would also mean…it would mean that this boy, who has been waiting for FIVE years for a home to call his own, would get a family. A family that wouldn’t hit him or hurt him. A family that could change his future for the better. A family that could help him heal from his past. A family that could change the course of this boys life and generations to come.

Is this family you? Do you know anyone that would be the perfect parents for this boy, who is quickly going to age out of the system and become a statistic? Pray for T. Pray for his foster mom, who is doing an amazing job, but is tired, is sad for him and wants desperately to find him a home. Pray that someone would step up.

I leave you with thoughts from Katie (Kisses from Katie book), who has adopted 14 girls in Uganda and who works there 24/7 caring for the least of these…

“We are not called to be safe, we are simply promised that when we are in danger, God is right there with us. And there is no better place to be than in His hands.”
Katie J. Davis, Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption

“Adoption is a beautiful picture of redemption. It is the Gospel in my living room.”
Katie J. Davis, Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption

“Adoption is wonderful and beautiful and the greatest blessing I have ever experienced. Adoption is also difficult and painful. Adoption is a beautiful picture of redemption.”
Katie Davis, Kisses from Katie: A Story of Relentless Love and Redemption